Nera

Monthly Archive: June 2015

Smile

I came back from Japan a few months ago with a notion. Is it even called a notion? It is not something that hasn’t been around, I didn’t reinvent the wheel. Maybe just for myself. I had this profound realisation that my life would be about a zillion times easier if I’d finally face the facts that whatever or whomever it is, it just is what it is, not what it isn’t. Simple example, if I have +12 degrees in the room, no matter how positive I’d be thinking it will not turn to +20. Clear enough?

And since I had this revelation of course I tried to convince everyone that I met that this is “the way”. I guess I’ll never learn to shut up. No, I haven’t had any religious experience, I just realised that in fact this kind of thinking helps me end my own suffering. Yet, found that this thought, it is what it is, not what it isn’t, is a tough sell. I tried to talk about it to my friends. Most of them asked why are you so negative and haven’t called me ever since. Truth is I’m not negative. I just am what I am. I do get that from a positive point of view, having neutral feelings or no feelings at all, can be negative.

I have a tough time writing this, I have the feeling that I will piss off a lot of people and I’ll have to look for new friends. Or well, even worse scenario, no one cares. 😀 But maybe it’s worth writing for my own peace of mind. I know I’m not alone with my thoughts. Here is a short video capturing the main idea behind Barbara Ehrenreich’s Smile or Die: How Positive Thinking Fooled America and the World.

 

Right now I  think that the biggest lie ever told to human kind is think positively, it will work out. You can change the world just by thinking about it. Yes, I know, it might sound harsh and it might sound that I’m pissed off. I am! I do believe that you can change the world with your thoughts, but firstly you gotta face the facts. I don’t think focusing on thinking positively will help you go anywhere. If you choose not to see your problems, they will persist. They do not go anywhere. I’m pissed that what has been sold to us is a self help method that doesn’t help. Kinda like “Oh, I try not to see that I have and elephant in the room, instead I choose to think positively, I’m sure it will disappear” Guess what? It wont.

What I’m saying is, you don’t have to be gloomy all the time, you don’t have to complain all the time. Just face the facts, see the situations, the people for who they are, yes, it will always we coloured with your own subjective view of the world, but do try. Try to do this without any emotion, without the need to judge for better or worse, without the need to want more of this or that. I do fail miserably most of the time, but I do have a vague idea that this is what nirvana is all about, stillness of the mind. You stop trying to control the world, to control yourself, you let go of all your thoughts, all of you and finally you see things for what they are and just because of that they might actually be beautiful.

What has all this to do with singing? A question, will it make you a better singer if you focus only on the positive things that you do well and never touch the stuff that you do poorly?